Yesterday morning I got an email from sister C saying that her boyfriend D is not particularly busy but that he doesn’t phone to say he loves her or he misses her or anything and that he obviously doesn’t care. It was a little out of the blue so I asked her if she wanted advice or if she just wanted to be miserable and that I could probably help with both.
She replied with the following email- GIVE ME A BASH AT BOTH. I AM A COMPLETE EMOTIONAL IDIOT.
You must understand the context slash situation involved here- poor C has been spending Monday to Friday at my parents because they’re close to her work for nearly three weeks now. Then she goes home to D and all the animals on weekends because they’re an hour away- and since their accident they’re battling to get their cars fixed quickly (C had a big accident in June and her car is being fixed now as is the double cab from their accident in October). So I sent C the following email- OK HERE’S SOME BRUTALLY HONEST ADVICE & OPINIONS ALL IN ONE. MOST WOMEN ARE “EMOTIONAL IDIOTS” UNTIL THEY ACCEPT THAT MEN DO NOT – NO, NOT EVER – THINK THE SAME AS WOMEN DO (WHICH MAKES YOU PERFECTLY NORMAL). YOU KNOW THIS; YOU JUST HAVE TO ACCEPT IT. CONSIDER THIS: HE PHONES YOU FIRST THING EVERY MORNING – THAT’S “NEW RELATIONSHIP” BEHAVIOUR AND YOU CAN BE LUCKY YOU STILL GET THAT! SERIOUSLY, HE MAY NOT BE WORKING BUSY BUT HE IS BUSY WITH OTHER STUFF AND HE TAKES IT FOR GRANTED THAT HE’LL TALK TO YOU LATER. HE WOULD BE COMPLETELY FLABBERGASTED IF HE KNEW WHAT A STATE YOU WERE IN NOW BECAUSE IT DOES NOT OCCUR TO HIM (OR ANY MAN) THAT IT MAY BE NICE SLASH IMPORTANT. AND WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO EACH OTHER IF YOU SPOKE SIX TIMES A DAY? YOU’D END UP WITH THOSE MOSTLY SILENT- “SO WHAT YOU DOIN?” AND “NO YOU HANG UP FIRST” CONVERSATIONS THAT I.M.H.O. SHOULD BE RESERVED FOR PUBESCENT KIDS WHO HAVE NOT HAD SEX YET!! SERIOUSLY SWEETIE HE CARES. HE’S HELPING TO GET YOUR CAR FIXED. HE FETCHES YOU AND BRINGS YOU BACK. YOU REALLY ARE GETTING WORKED UP FOR NOTHING AND ALL YOU DO IS UPSET YOURSELF AND GO TO BED MISERABLE AND THEN YOU’LL WAKE UP PISSED OFF WITH HIM TOMORROW AND HE WON’T KNOW WHY AND THEN YOU’LL HAVE A HUGE FIGHT OVER SOMETHING THAT DIDN’T EVEN HAPPEN!! SOUND FAMILIAR? LOVEYOULOTS!
C then replied with- WELL THE POOR MAN… HE PHONES TO TELL ME MY CAR IS NOT READY, AND I CANT COME HOME TODAY, SO I END HIS SENTENCE WITH, OH WELL NOT LIKE YOU REALLY CARE… AND HE IS QUITE PUZZLED AND RESPONDS WITH A PERPLEXED, “ARE WE HAVING AN ARGUMENT I DON’T EVEN KNOW ABOUT?”, TO WHICH I TELL HIM QUITE QUICKLY “NO, ITS JUST THAT YOU DON’T MISS ME OR CARE FOR ME ANY MORE, YOU DON’T EVEN PHONE ME…” HE BROUGHT UP THE
PHONING EVERY MORNING AND EVERY NIGHT THING, AND ALSO MENTIONED, THAT IS WHILE I AM NOT AT WORK, AND WHEN HE KNOWS I DON’T PAY FOR PHONE CALLS DURING OFFICE HOURS. THEN I BURST INTO TEARS, SAYING I JUST WANT TO COME HOME, AND I MISS HIM AND IT DOESN’T FEEL LIKE HE MISSES ME. HE PHONED ME
TEN MINUTES LATER TO TELL ME HE IS KNOCKING OFF EARLY, AND WILL PICK ME UP EARLY TOMORROW… I AM SUCH AN ASSHOLE.
I giggled myself silly all the way home!!!
There Is Never An Excuse
One in three is not a statistic - one in three is a crying shame.