Remember, Remember

A while back I posted about a friend of mine who desperately wanted children but the man she was with already had one from a previous relationship and didn’t want anymore… here’s a follow up for all of you who gave her advice! And with her permission, I’m quoting here from an email conversation she and I had.
…You are the first person I am saying this to, so bear with me if I don’t make sense: It’s been a month since we broke up and I am… FINE. And, honestly, I’ve been fine since week one. It’s just such a relief to be able to dream about the future and children and a family and all the things that all girls want and not be stuck with someone who’s not interested in all that. I can finally sit and fantasise about holding a baby… and not be angry at my partner cause he doesn’t want to give me that. When we used to be together, I would get so jealous when he spoke about how much he loves his daughter and how awesome it is, etc. Not because I wanted his attention, but because I wanted to feel that way about my own child. And I thought it very selfish of him to always rave and rant about ‘I love being a parent’ in front of me, knowing damn well that he’s not interested in awarding me the same privilege. We’re still friends and I’ll always have a place in my heart for him, but it’s never going to be more than that again. Now, the problem is: where do I meet the man who’s going to father my children?? I’m sure you know what I mean when I say there’s just no good ones out there…
I am SO impressed with and proud of her for taking such a bit step forward in her life! And I am convinced that the fact that she is fine with her decision is just proof positive that she made the right decision. You go girl!

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3 thoughts on “Remember, Remember”

  1. Wow.. what a huge step… brave as hell is all I can say.. Look for him at the a place you would seldom go to… and nor would he… and just coincidently bump into each other even though you were not due to be there…. Serendipity

  2. Yeah – you go girl!! And honestly, as far as I am concerned the best place to meet a man who would want to be a father and husband etc is at church. Sounds crazy, I know, but it’s true.

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