On Father’s Day

More than any other day of the year (besides Damien’s birthday), Damien’s father is on my mind, more so this year than ever before. And I have been wracking my brain for nice things to tell him about his paternal family.
I have never “bad-mouthed” his father and I don’t intend to start, but I’m battling to remember things that I buried rather deeply! I have always referred to him as Damien’s “father”, and Damien refers to him as “my dad”… I am hoping I only do it inwardly, but I cringe a little every time Damien says it. I have mentioned before… somewhere in my blog… that to me there’s a very big difference between a “father” and a “dad”. To me- anyone can be a father; but it takes a special man to be a dad. And if you ask me- Damien’s father is not a dad to Damien. He never has been. And today of all days I wonder what is going through the man’s mind. What he thinks or feels about Damien. What he’s thought of or decided on for when Damien decides to look for him one day (and I have no doubt he will do so).
And I’m reminded even more today than usual of what Damien doesn’t have when I see how my own family’s father’s dote on their children… biological and adopted.
I s’pose I’ll have to wait and see won’t I…

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Wife, mom, cake artist, Guide Dog puppy raiser, ADHD champion, wedding planner, and tattooed cat slave.
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4 Responses to On Father’s Day

  1. angel says:

    thanx dawn! he was cute wasn’t he, people thought he was a girl for the longest time no matter how i dressed him!

    terri… {{HUGS}} babe! glad you enjoyed the quizzes, and i reckon since we’re both midnight and both lekker cocktails- we get together and have a party- like soon!!!

  2. Terri says:

    I just think it’s a pity Damien’s Dad is missing out on all the great bits of seeing him grow up.
    I’m feeling a bit emotional this father’s day so thanks for posting the quizzes – they’re a nice distraction.
    So FYI…
    ***My Fortune Is… Cow with no legs, ground beef.***
    ???!

    * I am also midnight, like you.

    ***I Am 48% Open Minded***
    You aren’t exactly open minded, but you have been known to occasionally change your mind.
    You’re tolerant enough to get along with others who are very different…
    But you may be quietly judgmental of things or people you think are wrong.
    You take your own values pretty seriously, and it would take a lot to change them.

    ***My Brain is 67% Female, 33% Male***
    Your brain leans female
    You think with your heart, not your head
    Sweet and considerate, you are a giver
    But you’re tough enough not to let anyone take advantage of you!

    ***I Am a Margarita***
    You aren’t just the life of the party, you are the party!
    You mix a good drink, bust out some great music, and know how to get down.

    And now you can officially say you got the longest comment in blog history 😉

  3. Dawn says:

    P.S. Excuse me while I eat the delicious baby up!

  4. Dawn says:

    You are so right about the difference between a Father and a Dad. This must be a difficult thing to deal with in your life. You seem strong and sensitive – loving and vulnerable – and these are amazing qualities which I know your son feels nurtured by. Sometimes one effective parent is all a boy needs, Angel! Being a parent myself, I hold effective, single parents in the highest esteem – it is such a huge thing to handle on your own. You seem to do a superb job sister! xoxo