I AM SO TIRED OF THE SAME FUCKING PHONE CALLS OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN!

And yes- I’m swearing… that’s how gatvol I am!
I got another one this morning.
Damien was caught smoking at school yet again today. He insists he wasn’t- but he was caught with a cigarette in his hands and he smells of smoke! And the woman who phoned me says this is the fourth time in the last month or so- I only know of one other time, and I paid the fine for that one, now I have this fine and three more! That’s R800! At this rate Damien isn’t going to have any money in his bank account for nearly a year!
I was expecting to fetch Damien early today but because he’s still coughing… last week Thursday & Friday I was at home with him and he felt better over the weekend, but he got worse through the week again and I made an appointment to take him to the doctor today after work. Then when I saw the school’s number I expected it to be a secretary telling me he’s sick and I can pick him up.
But no…
So I cried today- for the first time in a loooong time.
Usually my happy pills don’t let me go that far, but today I was THAT frustrated!

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9 Responses to I AM SO TIRED OF THE SAME FUCKING PHONE CALLS OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN!

  1. Eternally Curious says:

    Alas, so true Angel. I was just thinking that the shouting at you was a new element – combined with the routines of bunking and smoking (but being so dramatically increased, eventho known and routine). Wish I knew the answer for you, as I’m sure you do too! Please know that you have all my love and support (not to mention my admiration).

  2. angel says:

    ww: BTDT!!! this isn’t the first time bru!

    ec: aaah but i wish it was the first time, then i may be able to put it down to some unusual event… the bunking and the smoking isn’t new…

  3. Eternally Curious says:

    Just a thought Angel: Could all of this sudden, and extreme, ‘acting out’ (smoking, shouting at you, extreme mood swings, bunking school, etc.) be a symptom of his emotions around the Croc Hunter’s death? I only ask because my own Patrick loved the Croc Hunter as much as your Damien seems to – and Patrick is definitely working through some ‘issues’ around it. Not as severe as Damien’s appear to be: with Patrick it involves a lot (and I do mean a lot!) of him and I talking and me allowing him to cry (again, a lot!) – but I’m just wondering if Damien’s way of working through these emotions is to rebel and act out as he has been?? The Croc Hunter’s death is especially difficult for children to deal with because it was so completely sudden and unexpected! This threatens their already shaky sense of security.

    Just some thoughts …

  4. Within Without says:

    I’m sorry, Angel, that I haven’t been visiting as often as usual.

    I say I’m sorry because I feel badly that for the first time in a long time, you have cried.

    First, there’s nothing wrong with that, but I don’t have to say that to you. Caring brings crying.

    But the frustration obviously is increasing for you. I’m with HE on this…first accept that this is not abnormal, really…but then take control of it, if you can.

    My mom caught me smoking her own cigarettes with my brother when I was a kid.

    She smoked cigs without filters. All me and Bro were doing was experimenting, not inhaling.

    When she caught me, she forced me to inhale three of those cigs. And I didn’t smoke again for a long time, believe me, after hoarking and getting sick.

    Best with this.

  5. angel says:

    nmotb: thanx for the phone call tjomma!

    tracy: i am indeed just hanging on and praying for it to pass quickly! and i remember your cody getting his masters as inspiration to tighten my grip…

    homo escapeons: smoking in public in south africa is illegal unless it’s a designated area, and he’s underage… each incident where he gets caught is a fine of 200 bux!

    spookie: love you too sis! thanx

  6. Spookie the Warrior says:

    I don’t know what to say – honestly. Try Tracey’s idea of headphones in the bath tub…
    Love you lots Sis. You are always in my prayers.

  7. Homo Escapeons says:

    Kids get fined for smoking at school? Honest?
    R800 sounds like an insulation value.
    Here is the ‘old school’ method of discipline;
    Make him smoke half a pack in front of you until he throws up & then its off to the morgue to show him the black lungs of a smoker and the pretty pink ones of a non-smoker.

    I don’t know. I am a casual smoker but luckily not one of my kids ever got the urge.
    Remember how immortal you are at that age and how powerful peer pressure is…..YIKES!

  8. Tracy says:

    Oh Angel,
    Your both gonna be fine. I called these the “cope” years because all you can do is just hang on! I actually wanted to run away from home so many times. Just remember to go over to my blog and look at Cody getting his Masters degree then say, “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.” Soon you too will be 45 and Damien will be off creating havoc in some other womans life. Then my friend, you will indeed be able to console some other freaked out Momma.
    Hot baths and headphones work wonders.
    Love and prayers always
    Tracy

    P.S.
    I finally found a way around, just post under “other” and paste your URL in, it works fine.

  9. NMOTB says:

    I honestly don’t know how much longer you are going to cope with all of this! I am so sorry to hear this my friend!