1. “Help me to focus…” Please teach me through my sense of ‘touch’, I need ‘hands on’ and ‘body movement’.
2. “I need to know what comes next.” Please give me a structured environment where there is a dependable routine. Give me an advanced warning if there will be changes.
3. “Wait for me, I’m still thinking.” Please allow me to go at my own pace. If I rush, I get confused and upset.
4. “I’m stuck! I can’t do it!” Please offer me options for problem-solving. I need to know the detours when the road is blocked.
5. “Is it right? I need to know NOW!” Please give me rich and immediate feedback on how I’m doing.
6. “I didn’t forget, I didn’t ‘hear’ it in the first place!” Please give me directions one step at a time and ask me to say back what I think you said.
7. “I didn’t know I Wasn’t in my seat!” Please remind me to STOP, THINK and ACT.
8. “Am I almost done now?” Please give me short work periods with short-term goals.
9. “What?” Please don’t say ‘I’ve already told you that’. Tell me again in different words- give me a signal- draw me a symbol.
10. “I know, it’s ALL wrong, isn’t it?” Please give me praise for partial success. Reward me for self-improvement, not just for perfection.
11. “But why do I always get yelled at?” Please catch me doing something right and praise me for my specific positive behaviour. Remind me (and yourself) about my good points, when I’m having a bad day.
12. I may be hard to live with, and have ADHD, but I still have feelings and would have never chosen to behave like I do sometimes…