I like that particular quote. Its how I was raised and its how my parents continue to raise us.
I hear a lot about spoiling ones children, or making things too easy for them- from all sides- even from people who don’t have children (which never ceases to amaze me)… and I don’t think I’ve done that to Damien so far… granted, he does have “more” than a lot of kids, like Lizzard shoes and access to the school of his choice (or the option of a private school) because he’s my only child, and people with more than one child can’t afford such things- but I do try not to spoil him. And I know I have done so on many occasions anyway- purely due to the whole “poor-kid-doesn’t-have-a-dad-guilt-trip” factor…
Anyhoodle**, I was indirectly reminded about spoiling ones kids again on Sunday morning.
We were driving to sister B’s and my darling Damien asked me if he could please have a motorcycle next year so he can take himself to school and such. Boy oh boy was he annoyed with me when I said no!!?! It was almost comical… I said no immediately but I didn’t explain right off the bat- and being a temperamental teenager, he immediately decided I was judging him!
I didn’t even have to mention my abject terror at just imagining my (often reckless and usually daydreaming) son navigating peak traffic on two wheels with nothing between him and the tarmac but cowhide- if that… I have a perfectly legitimate excuse, in that I cannot afford to pay off a bike for him. As much as I’d love to be able to buy him a car (or MAYBE even a bike) one day, I just can’t do so on my one salary.
And don’t get me wrong bunnies- I absolutely love bikes- I reckon am SO a biker at heart! When they go by me on the highway, I feel such a longing its quite weird- and I get the urge to whoop and yell and scream for them to take me with them! I was taught to ride by my cousins when I was 14 years old and I’ve been hooked ever since… but buying my own Monster (as in Ducatti) has to wait till “one day” because I have responsibilities right now, teehee.
So as much as I do worry about Damien handling 4 wheels, and as terrified as I am at the possibility of his handling 2… he’s going to save his pennies and buy his own wheels… like I did.
*Robert A. Heinlein
**Thinking of you Vangiepants!
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