Right. Ahem. Back to the question I was thinking about. I’ll get there- I just need to try and explain my thinking first… Oh, and Mommy darling- you may not wanna read any further, teehee.
Plain and simple- I love the physical act of having sex, of making love. I always have. Whether I’m single or in a relationship (or celibate, heh heh) I have an exceptionally healthy sex drive. And yes, given my current state of mind, maybe I shouldn’t be thinking about sex at all, but maybe if I blog about it I can get some of “it” out of my system!
Truly, I think my first sexual experiences play a large role in how much I enjoy sex, I was very lucky in that I was, uuuummmm… treated well… and I was taught an awful lot too. I think a woman’s “first time” is immensely important, even more so than a lot of people think it is. It’s not simply a case of losing something or of giving something, there’s a lot more to it. Its something a girl never ever ever forgets, and if its good- sex and love making has a whole different colour in a girl’s life! Since a lot of women I speak to regard sex as a chore and dislike it immensely, I wonder how many women are as lucky as I was. And when I think of marriage- being able to make love whenever I… I mean we… want to- is an important part of that relationship!
Now, if I’m not mistaken, there are a lot of “parts” of the sex act that many people consider “dirty” or “wrong”, and Sweetass’ post on blow jobs was what got me thinking about all this again. I know many women who will not perform fellatio, and a lot of men will not perform cunnilingus. Sex games and fetishes are frowned upon as not PC or decent, even in our modern and supposedly open minded society.
And now I finally get back to my question.
Is sex different when you’re in a Christian couple?
I s’pose in an ideal world, a couple would be virgins when they married and so wouldn’t even know about the other stuff… but what about ex-sluts like me? What if you’ve BTDT…? What is “allowed” (for lack of a better word) and what is not when you’re married and you’re both Christians, if you’re a church going, praying, Christian couple. Can you play dress up? Experiment with bondage and or fetishes? What if you like having your toes licked? If you’re madly in love and you love Christ does that mean you don’t “need” the other stuff to make sex, erm, exciting…?
Does this sound completely insane…?