There Are Ways To Handle Things.

And there are ways to handle things.

We- as humans- more often than not pick the wrong way to handle the curveballs life throws us, and inevitably someone gets hurt or offended or angry… or all of them at once. Picking the wrong way is normal, and it is all a part of growing up and becoming independent. However- learning from these experiences is what makes you a grownup. Let me give you a little insight into what I have learnt.

And yes, I consider myself a grownup.

It’s actually a surprisingly simple lesson… but it takes forever to learn. And some people just never learn. There a lot of much shorter versions of this same list- like “count to 10” and “think before you speak”. And the commandment from Christ in the bible that says “do unto others as you would have done to you”. And it doesn’t matter whether they’re family or friends or colleagues or strangers or how old the person is. Over the last few years, I have come to think of just the one line, a little like a mantra, and it goes like this: “If the repercussions are not at all cringe-worthy, go right ahead”.

Want details of situations I have learned from? Read on…

Before you say something to your child (or children)… imagine speaking the same way to your colleagues or subordinates. Try and think how you would behave if friends and family could lay a grievance against you!

If you don’t cringe, go right ahead.

Before you say something to a family member or a friend… imagine speaking to colleagues or subordinates the same way. Remember that specific language use affects everyone the same way- and just because you’re close friends or family doesn’t mean you have free reign.

If you don’t cringe, go right ahead.

Before you say something to someone else’s child without that child’s parents or guardian present… imagine someone else doing the same thing to your child.

If you don’t cringe, go right ahead.

Before you say something to someone else’s child without that child’s parents or guardian present… imagine saying the same thing in front of, or directly to that child’s parents.

If you don’t cringe, go right ahead.

Before you say something to someone about their child or children… imagine them doing the same to you.

If you don’t cringe, go right ahead.

Before you reveal something about your personal life to a colleague… remember that you can not EVER be sure the person you tell will not share it over a cup of coffee with another colleague who will then do the same and so on and so forth.

If you don’t cringe, go ahead.

Before you share something with a colleague that someone else has shared with you… remember that you can not EVER be sure the person you tell will not share it over a cup of coffee with another colleague who will then do the same and so on and so forth.

If you don’t cringe, go ahead.

Before you say something negative or nasty about a friend or colleague to someone who never-in-a-million-years should know who you’re talking about… remember how friggin small this planet is!

If you don’t cringe (or mind it appearing on someone’s Facebook page or blog), then go right ahead.

About Angel

Wife, mom, cake artist, Guide Dog puppy raiser, ADHD champion, wedding planner, and tattooed cat slave.

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7 Responses to There Are Ways To Handle Things.

  1. ginnygrl says:

    So true.

    I love your “if you don’t cringe, go ahead” line. That is so appropriate in so many situations!

  2. Louisa says:

    Too true angel, well said! 🙂

  3. Allan says:

    I agree with this. I fail to live up to it sometimes.

  4. Mandy says:

    great advice!!!

    It’s amazing how something so simple can sometimes be so hard to follow though, even with the best of intentions.

    I agree with this post 100% but… I have to admit, like most people, I’ve been guilty of a few mistakes.

    I think I might just try harder, now.

    Thanks!!!

  5. Polgara says:

    Could you please please teach my husband that!
    Pol x

  6. sweets says:

    it’s very simple yes, but very difficult…
    oy

  7. Tamara says:

    Good advice. The hard part, I fear, will be sticking to it. But I’m gonna give it a shot.