One of the many problems parents and families face with their children with ADHD, is not viewing their child with the “disability perspective” that promotes acceptance, support and empathy for the child with ADHD.
There are 5 tenets for this disability perspective:
˜ ADHD is a legitimate neurological condition that undermines the child’s ability to regulate behavior.
˜ Children with ADHD have the same need as other children to gain acceptance from others.
˜ Children with ADHD have the capacity to self-regulate their behavior and may fulfill this capacity with the aid of effective parenting strategies and treatment interventions.
˜ This behavior growth should be expected to be gradual rather than rapid and dramatic.
˜ The use of positive and supportive discipline strategies will be more effective than the use of punitive and rejecting strategies.
Here are a few warning signs that you might be straying from a “disability perspective:”
˜ You ask the “why” question and actually expect your child to be able to answer it.
˜ You expect your child to act differently tomorrow because of something you did today.
˜ You take your child’s misbehavior personally.
˜ You devote a lot of time and consideration trying to determine which misbehaviors are due to ADHD and which as due to other factors, such as motivation.
˜ You are concerned that you are rewarding your child too often and punishing him/her too infrequently.