So… We Saw A Specialist.

Believe it or not, I’m going to say it again… I don’t want to talk about it.


I thought I would… but I can’t.


On Monday afternoon, my Glugs and I went to see a fertility specialist. I blogged about it, but I didn’t say much apart from that we were going to see him.

I think you all know that Glugs and I have been trying to have a baby for a year now, with homeopathic and herbal supplements and such- but with no “real” medical intervention. We went to see the specialist to find out if the supplements have made any difference at all, and to make 100% sure that there’s nothing physically wrong with my “parts”. From tests done a few years ago, we know my Glugs has a low count- but there’s nothing wrong with his swimmers. That said- my darling Glugs is much happier with the whole Vitalab set up. He says its much more professional than the docs he saw before, and Dr Gobetz is really cool and very approachable. I was so hoping he’d do an ultrasound and discover that this month we’d actually been successful- and that our appointment would turn into an exceptionally expensive pregnancy test… but no such luck.

So we now have several steps to be followed, and it’s a lengthy process with lots of tests… and quite a schedule to try and keep to, and quite a while until that’s all finished. We’re going to have to use some of our leave to fit in all the appointments… which means asking my boss for time off…

Then we’ll decide where to from there.


But I don’t want to talk about it.


I really- REALLY- appreciate some of you phoning and tweeting me to hear how it went, but I won’t be talking about it. I won’t be updating you on what the results are or how far the process is. If there is something drastically wrong with either one of us, then you’ll prolly hear about it… but I think you can go on the assumption that no news is good news.

As when we decided to tell you guys that we are trying to get pregnant- I am asking you again not to ask me about it.

I know its like an oxy-moron to tell you we’re trying, and then not want to talk about it… or to tell you we’re seeing someone and then not to talk about it… but I want you to at least know what’s going on. I told you initially because I didn’t want you to think we’d fallen pregnant accidentally (it was me who had an issue with this, not Glugs…)

Right now it really is kak enough for me to hear and read about my friends’ pregnancies (and I seem to have a never ending supply of preggy friends…) and I have already kinda become the woman that no one wants to say anything to for fear of upsetting her.

And I hate that.


So forgive me if I seem snappish and rude if you ask me how it’s going…

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23 Responses to So… We Saw A Specialist.

  1. Makes perfect sense to me … having the confidence to know how you want to handle things and letting everyone know … thats what communication is all about.

    Fingers crossed and take care of yourself!!

    .-= Karen Griffith Gryga´s last blog ..Working Memory — Can It Be Expanded??? (ADHD, Learning Disabilities) =-.

  2. Angel says:

    Thank you all you all… I- we- really do appreciate all the support and the sweet words.

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  4. Donn says:

    I can understand the frustration and disappointment will wear you down…and how much more personal can you get? You know that you have plenty of well wishers hoping that the Universe unfolds as it should.

    Maybe I can distract you for a minute..
    I went to see the film “District 9” and it obviously isn’t really about extraterrestrial Aliens.
    Is it a HUGE deal in SA?
    .-= Donn´s last blog .. =-.

  5. Wenchy says:

    All the best babe
    .-= Wenchy´s last blog ..Fortune befriends the bold. =-.

  6. Gooooooooood luck…and have loads of fun trying. xoxoxoooxxxx
    .-= The Jackson Files´s last blog ..Monsters =-.

  7. Tamara says:

    Biggest hugs to both of you. Hoping the journey is a smooth one.
    .-= Tamara´s last blog ..Garden stuff (in which I wax lyrical about peas and whine about my sore back) =-.

  8. cath says:

    No questions, just hugs and know that we’re here.. ALL THE WAY XXX
    .-= cath´s last blog ..the post where she updates, properly… =-.

  9. Panni says:

    I so know how you feel. We have many trying now too for some time and carry the monthly dissapointment alone. We decided not to tell anyone we are ttc because we didn’t want the question of “And?” every month and then have to go into it. Thinking of you and I really hope you have a positive (in more ways then one) outcome really soon.

  10. ExMi says:

    soooo…’s it going?

    nah, just kidding. and i totally understand. i don’t like talking about things that are still not confirmed yet, seems like you might jinx it, right?

    but listen here. you have much support here in blogworld, so don’t forget to use us, mmmkkkay?

    .-= ExMi´s last blog ..Tuesday TMI =-.

  11. phillygirl says:

    I absolutely don’t think you should be apologising for not wanting to talk about it, I completely understand how that feels, some things are just more personal and private than others … and some things are just too real when written down. That said, you’re a couple who have warmed the hearts of so many of us online with your very public love-story and I know everyone is only hoping for the best for both of you 🙂 I am certainly keeping everything crossed that there’ll be good news for you to write about soon enough 🙂 But in the mean time, I’m thinking of you both.
    .-= phillygirl´s last blog ..The Mundane =-.

  12. acidicice says:

    *squishes* Will totally respect your wishes, but if you ever want to talk…I’m here!
    .-= acidicice´s last blog ..Loot! =-.

  13. Hardspear says:

    ((Angel & Glugs))
    .-= Hardspear´s last blog ..Daddy got nooky =-.

  14. T says:

    hey girl.. no worries

    Im happy with you sharing when and what you feel comfortable with….

  15. Po says:

    It is your business and a private matter so I hope things go well for you two. Huge congratulations on the engagement!
    .-= Po´s last blog ..It never rains it floods. =-.

  16. Bobbi Janay says:

    Hugs and I will wait without asking.
    .-= Bobbi Janay´s last blog ..Letting Daniel Jackson Go. =-.

  17. Tanya says:

    Praying for you!
    .-= Tanya´s last blog ..Happily ever after…. =-.

  18. Jeanette says:

    HUGE (((HUGS))) I’ve never gone as far as the specialist route, but I understand where you’re coming from… completely!
    Really hope that it’s a positive experience in the end. It’s not an easy road to travel
    .-= Jeanette´s last blog ..Take Two of Baby Joshua =-.

  19. Sally says:

    no questions just lots and lots of silent behind the scenes support. Crossing everything for you guys.
    .-= Sally´s last blog ..My little people =-.

  20. julia says:

    All the best and I really, really hope that it works out for you guys..

  21. Louisa says:

    I won’t ask, promise…but I’m really keeping my fingers crossed for you kids that this works out Angel.
    .-= Louisa´s last blog ..Week 20: she’s a banana! =-.

  22. Laura says:

    ((HUGS)) will be sending happy positive vibes as you go along your journey!
    .-= Laura´s last blog ..Is there happy forever? =-.