An Odd Aspect Of TTC…

And one that never occurred to me till recently.

Being terrified of falling pregnant because you wouldn’t know how to tell people!

You don’t want to hear “I told you so!” from anyone… nor do you want to have to tell other friends who are trying to get preggers because you know that no matter how happy they are for you, they’ll hate you and your happiness for a while.

 

As for us.

Right now.

We’re okay.

I still get heartsore when I see baby bumps, and read friends news about their pregnancies… but I’ll get over it.

Currently though, we have lots of friends- and friends of friends- (who do not read my blog) who are finding out about our engagement and us planning our wedding.

Their first question after congratulating us and asking when we’re getting married is whether or not we’re going to have children of our own!!?!!

 

I’m having a bit of a hard time not losing my temper with these people! Is that the only reason people get married? I don’t fargin think so!!! It’s so annoying!

 

So instead of smacking people, I’m back to being nonchalant.

I’m back to telling people we’re not interested at all.

I’m back to making like we’re completely self-absorbed and only interested in living our lives the way we want to.

I’m back to saying that since my knucklehead is waaaay over 18 years old, there’s no way I’d even consider having another baby and starting all the feeding-nappies-no-sleep drama from the beginning.

 

…come play on my rollercoaster…

An Old-ish Funny… But Still A Goodie…

Jack wakes up with a huge hangover after attending his company’s party. He is not normally a drinker, but the drinks didn’t taste like alcohol at all. He didn’t even remember how he got home from the party.

As bad as he was feeling, he wondered if he did something wrong in a drunken haze.

He forced himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins next to a glass of water on the side table. And, next to them, a single red rose!!

He sits up and sees his clothing in front of him, all cleaned and pressed! He looks around the room and sees that it is in perfect order, spotlessly clean.

He takes the aspirins, cringes when he sees a huge black eye staring back at him in the bathroom mirror. Then he notices a note hanging on the corner of the mirror written in red with little hearts on it and a kiss mark from his wife in lipstick:

 

 

Honey,

 

Breakfast is on the stove.

I left early to get groceries to make your favorite dinner tonight.

I love you, darling!

Love, Jillian                                            ?

 

 

He stumbles to the kitchen and sure enough, there is hot breakfast, steaming hot coffee and the morning newspaper.

His 16 year old son is also at the table, eating.

Jack asks, “Son, what happened last night?”

“Well,” says his son, “you came home after 3AM, drunk and out of your mind. You fell over the coffee table and broke it, and then you puked in the hallway, and got that black eye when you ran into the door.”

Confused, he asked his son, “So, why is everything in such perfect order and so clean? I have a rose, and breakfast is on the table waiting for me??”

His son replies, “Oh THAT… Mom dragged you to the bedroom, and when she tried to take your pants off, you screamed, ‘Leave me alone, bitch, I’m married!!’”

 

Broken Coffee Table $239.99

Hot Breakfast $4.20

Two Aspirins $.38

Saying the Right thing, at the Right time: PRICELESS

 

…come play on my rollercoaster…

BlogThings!!!

When last did you do any of these, hey?


You Are Spirited and Spontaneous


You are an energetic, passionate person. You are quite impulsive, and your passions tend to change with the wind.You are lively and fun. You like to stay busy with your various adventures.You are a wanderer and a traveler. You’re curious about the world, and it’s hard for you to stay still for too long.You get bored easily and tend to shirk on your responsibilities. You don’t want to grow up yet!

 

 


You Are Classic Rock


You are a pretty average American guy or gal, even if you don’t live in the US.You like music that’s basic, honest, and real. The best songs don’t have a lot to them.You consider yourself to be pretty normal. You work for a living and put your pants on one leg at a time.You love songs that stand the test of time. You don’t fall victim to musical trends.

 

 


You Are a Mullet


You are a total character. You’re quirky, unique, and there’s no one quite like you.Your idea of style is doing your own thing and defying expectations. You’re eclectic.At your best, you are funny, observant, and a bit sarcastic. You see life’s ironies clearly.At your worst, you are a bit weird and creepy. People sometimes take you the wrong way.

 

 


Your Name is Gray


Your name tells people that you are calm and level headed. Your name makes you seem honest and fair.You are able to look at things clearly and without emotion. You tend to remain neutral in most disputes.People see you as reliable and trustworthy. You treat everyone equally, and you don’t tend to have any prejudices.You are naturally calculating and even a bit cunning. You don’t like to show your cards too early in the game.

 

 


You Should Get an Abstract Tattoo


Artistic and uniqueYou’re the most likely type to personally design your tattoo 


You Are An Attention Seeker


You’re only human, so you can’t help but want a little attention every now and then.

You love the spotlight, but only when it’s well deserved. You’d hate to be known for the wrong thing.

And you also don’t mind sharing the spotlight. You can easily give someone else credit or a complement.

You know there’s enough attention to go around, and it makes you happy when your friends shine.You come across as: Friendly and interesting

People may wrongly think you’re: A little more modest than you actually are!

ADHD and Making Friends

adhd_friendsDoes your ADHDer come home from school and tell you no-one wants to play with him/ her?

Does your ADHDer battle to keep friends?

Does your ADHDer not get invited to parties?

The simple truth is that ADHDers battle with all interpersonal relationships, from their parents to their teachers and everyone in between, and this makes it very hard for ADHDers to make and keep friends, no matter how old they are.

An ADHDer doesn’t pick up on simple social cues like the rest of us do. They don’t notice body language or pick up vocal cues and they often misunderstand jokes.
Their brains run at a mile a minute and rather than follow the current conversation they’ve leapt ahead 6 steps, but no-one else knows how they changed topics because it all happened in their heads.
They are often loud and talk too much. They get restless and irritable, and quickly lose interest in what’s going on around them. They don’t stick to the rules and they battle to wait their turn, which can cause a game to nreak up without your ADHDer realising why. ADHDers can also act out and lose their tempers.
Sadly, this all gives them a bad reputation with their peers. The kids your ADHDer goes to school with have moms, who hear about the kid at school that no-one wants to invite because he breaks things, or he’s a bully, or he doesn’t play nice.

I would strongly suggest that you help your ADHDer make- and keep- friends.

For more in-depth social strategies, you could speak to your child’s doctor or therapist.
But you can do simple things to help your child. Things that won’t even sound like much.
Arranging one-on-one play dates for your ADHDer with children you may see him playing with when you fetch him from school, or kids you hear your ADHDer talking about can do your ADHDer a lot of good. Ask your child’s teachers for parents’ phone numbers, or ask them to pass your phone number on to children’s parents who may be willing to arrange play dates with you. Perhaps you can ask your child’s teacher to put you in contact with other ADHDer parents.
Be prepared to drive your child to friend’s houses, to fetch and carry his friends if they don’t live around the corner. Try to arrange play dates at your house, where your ADHDer can feel “safe” in his own space. Try to keep an eye on the play without interfering, so that you can give your ADHDer small cues if he starts getting too loud or can’t wait his turn. You can develop signals or keywords you can use with your ADHDer in social settings so that he won’t be embarrassed, like asking him to turn the volume down if he starts getting excitable and loud in stead of asking him to keep quiet.
You might want to consider telling the mom you arrange a play date with that your child has ADHD, and that he battles with socialising. Remember that information is power, and her having a heads-up, if she is willing to have an open mind, will enable her to pause for thought should something happen.

Learning and mastering social cues takes time, and takes extra time with ADHDers. But they can make and keep friends with your help.

Do you have any more suggestions?

A Meme Toy

I found this little game on Sproutsmom’s blog and I thought it would be fun. Create your debut novel cover:

 

This is my result

 

debut_novel

 

Here’s how to do one for yourself.

1 – Go to “Fake Name Generator” and make yourself an author name

2 – Go to “Random Word Generator” and the word listed under “Random Verb” is your books’ title

3 – Go to “FlickrCC” and type your title into the search box. The first photo that contains a person is your books’ cover (photo credit).

4 – Use Photoshop, Picnik, Powerpoint or something similar to put it all together. Be sure to crop and or zoom in so that it looks like a book jacket.

5 – Post it to your blog along with this text!

 

And now, consider yourself tagged! 😀