I miss her something awful.
This is a pity-party-post and I’m probably PMSing, but I am curious too.
You see, its kak not having my best friend around the corner to pop in for coffee.
Its kak not having her need me to have coffee with her coz she needs some time for just her.
Its kak not being able to help with the boys’ birthday cakes- not that she ever needed help in the kitchen mind you 🙂
Its kak not having her close enough to meet when I need to talk about something. Anything. Nothing.
Its kak not having her near me. Its kak not having my best friend here.
We talk on the phone most Sundays, and I love speaking to her, but its not the same. I miss long nights with too much wine. I miss our history. I miss singing ABBA duets at karaoke nights because we both love it. I miss the two of us going gallivanting together and leaving our boys with her hubby!
I read blog posts where people I know talk about how their best friends have helped them through some or other crappy or stressful situation… and a part of me sulks because I don’t get asked for help, and another part of me is heart sore that I don’t have someone to ask.
How do you reach that point with someone new? When your bestest best friend of twenty odd years has moved far far away to make a better life for herself and her family, how do you make someone new your best-friend-to-have-coffee-with? How do you get to the point where you can start building a history with someone else, without feeling like you’re betraying your BBF? I mean, Gen (aka NMOTB) will always be my BBF, my BBBBFF. History like ours is rare and no-one will ever replace her… but how do you make someone new your go-to-girl when you haven’t grown into it like she and I did over 28 years? Is there a formal discussion, some kind of verbal agreement? After all, when you start dating a guy you eventually have to have the discussion that you are going to be exclusive, is it the same with a girl friend?
*I’m probably using this wrong 😛