Art Reflects Life…

Has anyone watched the TV series “Parenthood“?

It’s one of my favourite favourite TV shows. Season 2 is about half way through on the DSTV series channel. Since I started watching it I saw parallels with my own life in so many of the characters and situations…

The series revolves around a big family of four siblings and the parents of these siblings, the siblings’ relationships with their partners and children, and each other. The grandfather is cantankerous and opinionated and loves his family. The grandmother is wise and patient and loves her family. There’s a single mom of 2 teenagers with an absentee dad. There’s a guy who discovered his ex-girlfriend hadn’t told him she was pregnant when they split five or so years before. There’s a couple with a genius IQ daughter who are TTC. And there’s a couple with a teenage daughter and an Aspie son.

Most who know me will know that movies and such do not make me cry. I may get a lump in my throat but I don’t actually cry. This show makes me cry.

An episode that really hit me hard was when the grandfather wanted to take one of his grandsons fishing because he takes all the boys fishing at a special place and they spend the night just him and them and it’s a tradition and and and.

The grandson in question is 7 or 8 years old, and he has severe Aspergers Syndrome. The boy’s own family has been battling with living with and treating his syndrome and they have changed schools and hired a coach for him and so on and so forth, and whilst they do not keep his Aspergers a secret or anything- their extended family has no idea what they really deal with unless they accidentally witness a meltdown.

When the grandfather started planning the fishing trip, the Aspie’s parents tried to speak to him about being on his own with the Aspie, and gave him a folder containing information and suggestions to read on how to handle potential issues with the Aspie. They have tried repeatedly to explain- to the grandfather especially- how their son is very different to a regular kid and has to be “handled” differently to other children because of his Asperger Syndrome.

The grandfather didn’t read the file and didn’t pay attention, and as a result the fishing trip was nothing short of a disaster, the Aspie only calming down after the grandfather called his parents to ask for help.

It broke my heart because at one stage I was giving folders like that to my family to read about my knucklehead’s ADHD. It took a long time for me to talk to my family about my son’s diagnosis and to tell them what I was dealing with, and it took even longer for them to actually pay attention to what I was saying!

Anyone who is parent to a special needs child will be able to identify with this situation. We are too often fobbed off as over-reacting or being over protective, and at the same time judged to be too lax in disciplining our children.

About Angel

Wife, mom, cake artist, Guide Dog puppy raiser, ADHD champion, wedding planner, and tattooed cat slave.

Bookmark the permalink.

11 Responses to Art Reflects Life…

  1. Darla says:

    As Beck so aptly put it, we have been hooked since the 1st season. Don’t let her lie though … I insisted she watch it! But I love the functionality and sometimes (alot?) dysfunctionality of the whole thing. Very real lifey sitcom for once! I can’t wait to catch both seasons on DVD!
    Darla recently posted…clumsymuch?My Profile

  2. blackhuff says:

    I too love Parenthood because of how I can identify to the parents and their struggles with parenthood. Especially the one with the Asbergers Syndrome like you mentioned.
    blackhuff recently posted…My meals for a day at workMy Profile

  3. elise says:

    Its surpisingly common! Its so difficult for people to tell others when they need help or when they need to talk… The poor grandfather! It must have been really difficult. I don’t watch the show but I may flick on to it the next time i see it pop up when i’m scrolling…
    elise recently posted…Advice from AvoMy Profile

  4. BBF says:

    I love that show and never missed an episode – we are finished with that series already and I can’t wait for another one to begin.
    The only little thing that did bother me about the show is the way everyone always spoke at once – but I still loved it.
    MWA – Love Ya

  5. Anna says:

    Never seen the show it but it sounds like a good series. My kid has also special needs, I know what you talking about. It’s really not easy to know what to do.
    Anna recently posted…How to attract the right manMy Profile

  6. Michael says:

    Great I would live seeing this myself.. I am kind of hooked on these things myself 🙂

    Thanks
    Michael recently posted…What Are The 10 Disadvantages Of HomeschoolingMy Profile

  7. becky says:

    I love this show!! It was ironic on how watching this, their aspie son flashed triggers of similar behaviors on our little guy. We spend a lot of episodes going – X does that! (Like when he said the fish tank bubbles were too loud – so he broke the tank to make it quiet.) And how the family meshes together …. I can honestly say I’m hooked on this !! And I’ve been insisting my sisters watch it too!!
    becky recently posted…Listening Lessons… Day 2My Profile

  8. Oh gosh yes, and we are dealing with things on a way smaller scale. But try to explain that your almost 4 year old is refusing to potty train…
    cat@juggling act recently posted…Some Monday bulletsMy Profile

  9. Tamara says:

    I haven’t seen the show (I don’t watch much, apart from Masterchef and F1), but hopefully a show like this helps to educate people about how to relate to those with special needs.
    Tamara recently posted…Assorted updates: count down and cat warfareMy Profile

  10. Alexia@Best Smokeless Cigarettes says:

    The shows sound really interesting. I know how hard for a mother to know that their child is a special one. You are very brave and honest Angel! And I really adore you for that. 🙂
    Alexia@Best Smokeless Cigarettes recently posted…best smokeless cigarettesMy Profile

  11. JaneF says:

    I am going to see if I can get hold of this show it sounds interesting… sounds like I’ll identify with it too. *hugs*
    JaneF recently posted…Infinitely GratefulMy Profile