WHOOP WHOOP!

My coffee machine will be delivered and installed (and I will be taught to use it) by the end of this week from…

~~drum roll please~~ 

Aquaspresso!!!

There are two different home coffee machines on offer from Aquaspresso.

The sexy and very organic yet space-age looking Capsule Coffee Machine, and the slightly more art deco and very efficient looking Automatic Bean-To-Cup Coffee Machine.

I don’t know which one they will be bringing to me, but I have already decided where its going to go in my kitchen!

Along with getting to use a really sexy Aquaspresso coffee machine for six months, they will be providing me with the coffee that goes in the machine for six months too!

I can hardly wait!

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The @SlutwalkJHB Press Release

Slutwalk Johannesburg

It’s a dress, not a Yes!

Slutwalk expresses the notion that no victim of sexual assault is the cause of that assault. No one ever asked to be raped.

Slutwalks originated in Canada in January 2011 when a representative of the Toronto police told a group of students, “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized”. A furore ensued, followed quickly by a protest march, the message of which reverberated so that there have now been Slutwalks in over 100 cities around the world. This August 25th 2012, Slutwalk is coming to the streets of Johannesburg for the second time.

We, the organisers of Slutwalk Johannesburg see Slutwalk as an international Movement which can help us raise awareness around a number of sexual assault issues; victim-blaming, corrective rape, gender violence and questioning the acceptance of a “rape culture” which has become the norm in our country. This is in line with the focus of the original Toronto Slutwalk.

In our country it is obvious  that sexual violence is a very pressing issue and in spite of Slutwalk this year being during Woman’s Month, it is not only a woman’s issue, it is an issue that all of society needs to address.

The participants at Slutwalk are ordinary people, mothers, fathers, brothers and sisters – people who believe in the vision of an equal society.  Some dress provocatively to emphasize the absurdity of much of society’s view on the issue, others dress in normal work or casual clothes in solidarity.

To quote Heather Jarvis, founder of Slutwalk: “From the very beginning in 2011 people were always encouraged to challenge slut-shaming language like “slut”, “whore”, “ho”, “skank”, “tramp”, etc. and never told they had to identify (with) one or another in order to participate. We’ve always maintained people should be safe to be who they are, how they are.”

If you’re human and believe that nobody, despite their age, sex, gender, sexual orientation or sexual history deserves to be raped, then come support Slutwalk and spread the message.

CONSENT IS NOT NEGOTIABLE

JOIN SLUTWALK JHB AND LET’S UNITE AGAINST VICTIM BLAMING AND SHAMING AND AGAINST ACCEPTABILITY OF ANY FORM OF RAPE

BLAME THE PERPETRATOR, NOT THE VICTIM!

DETAILS OF THE DAY:

ORGANISERS:

Slutwalk JHB is being organised by founder Sandi Schultz, Gina Jacobson, Nadia Assimacopoulos and Walter Pike

TIME & LOCATION:

The march is happening 25 th AUGUST 2012 starting and ending at Zoo Lake Sport’s Club, Cnr Westwold Way and Lower Park Drive, Parkwood. People are asked to arrive at 10h30, speeches start at 11h00 and the march will start at 11h30.

PARKING:

Parking has been organized on the cricket field on Westwold Way and will be R10 per vehicle. The organizers kindly ask that participants carpool where possible and that no one park on the streets, in keeping with the resident’s association’s request.

For more info on Slutwalk Johannesburg, we have the following in place:

We would like to express our gratitude to the following:

Please make any donations to:

FNB Savings Account

Slutwalkjhb

Acc : 62325235902

Branch Norwood Mall

250655

The #LibertyWMG Breakfast

I was very lucky to be invited to the third annual Working Mom’s Guide Breakfast yesterday morning, sponsored by Liberty!

I was surprised by the size of the event when I arrived, with a good 250 people  in the beautifully appointed hall at the Sydenham Community Centre. And I was very pleasantly surprised when Gina arrived! We were seated at the same table too which was very cool- though I am sure some of the other people at our table thought we were being rude as we tweeted through the presentations… Heh heh…

I didn’t take my camera with me so I had to use my BB… The tables were very pretty, with each one decorated a little differently to the others.

Everyone knows I’m a sucker for a goodie bag and the ones we got today were phenomenal! Samples from Clarins and Windrose, a bottle of Canderel sweetener, a Balmain pen from Liberty, a Tommy Tippee bottle (Gina gave me hers and I’m giving both to my sister C), a handbag table hook from Liberty, a Home Owner magazine, an Elle Decoration magazine, a baby something from Pigeon (which is also going to my sister C) and a discount voucher from Stuttafords. Now thats what I call a goodie bag!

As we got to our tables we were offered chocolate and banana wrapped in a crepe! The buffet was set up in an adjoining room with little boards at each dish explaining the nutritional value of salmon, quinoa, apples, eggs, tomatoes, and so on and it was very interesting to read about what we were eating. And what a buffet it was! Different kinds of scrambled eggs, home made pickles, fresh salmon, tuna mayo, egg mayo, tomato and mozzarella slices, different breads, different salads, and a whole lot of sweet treats like crunchies and brownies and carrot cupcakes and cookies and *GASP* cheeeeeesecake! There was tea and coffee and they were making up fresh juices with apples, oranges, beetroots and a few other things, with their nutritional values explained as well. It was quite a feast!

And one of the best parts of the buffet? After the presentations and before the raffle prize draw, they served breakfast again, so if you hadn’t had enough the first time around you could go back for seconds!

And I’m sure there are several people who can testify to the fact that any event with myself in attendance would be incomplete without me spilling my drink on the table…

We were also treated to the Jewish tradition of the blowing of a shofar (a ram’s horn)! Being a  Ba’al T’qiah (shofar sounder) is an honour and the horn is something I have never heard before. Its quite something.

We were then privileged to hear author Joanne Fedler speak!

She’s a successful author, born in SA and now living in Oz. She’s a mom, she studied at Yale, she fought for women’s rights, and she’s a fantastic speaker to name just a few aspects of the phenomenal woman’s personality! She told stories and related personal experiences and it seemed absolutely effortless. She engaged her audience without one “um” and I was blown away! Here are a few of the things I got from her talk:

  • How do we sustain ourselves and hold our world together in a world that pulls us in so many directions all the time? When people have someone outside of themselves to live for, they find optimism in the most tragic of circumstances.
  • What does it mean to be whole? Celebrate the beauty of that which is incomplete, to embrace imperfection.
  • As they age we have to learn to love our children differently, to trust the change process because we cannot freeze time.
  • When your teenage kid tells you to “get a life” take it as a blessing and do it! Start taking back yourself as your children grow!
  • We’ve lost our ability to be patient and wait and it can make us feel unsustained if we want everything to be instant. Creativity and relaxation require patience!
  • Allow yourself to stop, to leave things unfinished, to breathe and do nothing.
  • As a mother you need to have a self, a someone who is you but not an employee/ a wife/ a mother… someone you maintain and come back to.
  • If you embrace your imperfections you open yourself to grace.
You can’t be all mom or all employee because without real relaxation and creativity in whatever form, you will feel like something is missing in your life.

And I won a prize in the raffle! I was so stoked! I was so excited when they called the number of one of my raffle tickets (I had six of them)! My lucky package consisted of the use of a snazzy coffee machine (and free coffee) for six months, Cellini luggage (and this suitcase set alone was worth R900), a dress from Panda (its a small, so I’m going to gift it to a friend), a voucher for a kosher fish market, funky striped reading glasses, an emergency car kit consisting of a set of jumper cables and a reflective triangle, AND a brown leather Busby wallet!! It must be kismet- I’ve needed a new wallet for ages! And when I went home I packed my prizes and my goodie bag into the luggage and wheeled it to the car!

Thank you so much for inviting me Liberty, it was quite a morning and I gained a lot of insight into what “sustenance” really can mean to a mom!

The Timing Is Essential!

This post has been brewing in my head for some time… I battle- when one of these situations occurs- to explain to people why I get so upset and annoyed. Maybe this post will help explain.

There are an assortment of messages that drive me nuts. There are BBM broadcast messages (if you’re a BB user like me and the rest of my family), “mail to all FB contacts” messages that you can’t bloody get rid of because everyone replies and you get all the replies and everyone rebroadcasts them, and the FB status update messages.

I know you know the ones I mean.

The ones that declare it to be “International Pinky Toe Awareness Week” or some such crap, and then suggest you change your profile picture to a purple giraffe or a pair of slippers or a sparkly green dinosaur to support the aforementioned cause.

Because you KNOW how much awareness a profile picture creates… Exactly none.

Those messages.

I loathe them. With a passion.

There are specific days, weeks or months allocated on the calendar to particular causes. There are events, email and social media campaigns organised. Awareness ribbons are handed out and worn and the campaign is spoken about and blogged about by people not only knowledgeable on the subject but people who have lived with it and dealt with it.

June is National Youth Month and National Blood Donor month. Mental Illness Awareness Month is in July. Breast cancer awareness month is October. November is Red Ribbon Month HIV and AIDS awareness campaigns happen between 1 and 16 December.

I know it sounds like I’m being petty, but when you spam people with a “fake” awareness campaign you completely dilute the effectiveness of the planned awareness projects! Not only are these messages spam (spam being defined as sending unsolicited electronic mail or text messages simultaneously to a number of e-mail addresses or mobile phones) and really REALLY annoying, these so-called “awareness campaigns” via mass email/ text/ BBM message do not actually benefit the cause these messages claim to support! When the real campaign starts people get annoyed the public is so irritated with the spam they’ve been bombarded with that they ignore the campaign completely.

So please people, before you forward yet another one of those dastardly messages and change your profile picture to a pair of zebra striped sunglasses because someone took it on themselves to declare it “Pins and Needles Awareness Week”, check the facts and spare a thought for the people working their butts off on the actual campaigns and depending on the fundraising and awareness created by their efforts during a specific time frame.

Flash Fiction Contest

I think I’m going to try my hand at a little fiction again… I haven’t written any fiction in a looong time and Stephen Parrish’s contests always inspire me.

On 8 September at noon, the Lascaux Flash Fiction Contest will open and it will close two weeks later. There’s a picture for inspiration and you’re only allowed 250 words (not including the title) so its quite a challenge. Anyone can enter and there’s a very cool bloggy badge for the winner AND a cash prize!