I know this is a case of too little too late. Angel, my precious child, please post this on your blog. It comes from the deepest corners of my heart to you and to ALL the parents who try and go it alone with the love and understanding of ignorant family (I was one of those until recently!) and so they really are not supported much. This is for the education, remedial and medical organisations who do not give these amazing children the opportunities they deserve. This is especially for our government who could be assisting these organisations so much, much more.
People, there is a brain drain happening in the foundations of this country because our most intelligent children are not adequately provided for! The very foundation of South Africa is her children. Just imagine how much these gifted children have to offer! They have been misunderstood for too long and their needs have been slipping through the cracks. There are future Einstein’s in these children and yet they are being suppressed and misunderstood by families, all the systems and a society that does not understand. I know this, I was one of them!
ADD or ADHD children (here after called Adders) have a chemical imbalance in the brain. Just like any other children with learning disorders, so too do these children require specialised schooling, diets and understanding. They are above average intelligence that is why they are such precious resources to our country’s future. There is not much support for them or their parents in South Africa.
Darling Damien, I owe you a huge apology my precious boy. I love you dearly and this you know. However, I have wasted many years thinking I understood and foolishly assuming you would outgrow ADHD. I did not research; or hear your mother when she gave me information; or read carefully the articles she sent me. Why? I simply do not know. Maybe denial was easier.
But just like your Grampa’s diabetes, you will not outgrow ADHD (that I now accept). And just like your Grampa, we have to all live with it and support you in your needs. To support you we have to be there for your mom so much more too. Thank you Angel for being so gentle and patient with me.
I would like all Adder mom’s, dad’s, auntie’s, uncle’s, granny’s and Grampa’s, teachers, etc to make the following promise out loud: (replace the words ‘my Adder’ with a name)
Make a copy of this promise and stick it on your fridge, bedroom cupboards, in fact every room in the house. It will remind you to guard your thoughts and hold your tongue in those heated moments.
The song following I dedicate to all the precious misunderstood Adders, and especially MY GIFT – I love you Damien. Thank you Angel for a wonderful, beautiful, gifted grandson!!
FROM THE SOUND OF MUSIC
She climbs a tree