…without so much as a by-your-leave, ahem… or at least a warning that they won’t be around anymore- I tend to take it quite personally.
I’m sure you know what I mean!? I just know I’m not the only one who is this irrational!
This is for the Blogging Chicks Carnival #37.
Something I have taken to calling “VBE” (the Vanishing Blogger Effect) seems to be cropping up a lot the last while… in fact, I have come across it so often I’ve even linked a new poll in my sidebar! Lately, VBE seems to be occurring more and more and more. I’ve never done so much sidebar editing as I have in the last coupla months! And it doesn’t seem to be limited to a specific blogging genre either- it’s all types! Fiction writers, mommies, photo bloggers…
Granted, most bloggers who disappear for anything over a coupla weeks come back eventually with letters from their parents (with obviously forged signatures), and some even have acceptable excuses, tee-hee… but most that simply stop blogging, vanish into cyber space and leave their regular readers wondering what the hell happened! Some bloggers that evaporate re-appear under new names, sorta re-inventing themselves, but rediscovering them is usually purely accidental if at all- unless they visit and tell you where to find their new page… that actually happened to me once.
Bloggers who pack it in because they’re being stalked I can also understand, that’s a fairly valid excuse!
But why do so many cyber-scribes stop blogging without saying they’re going to do so… simply vanishing leaving nothing but a bookmark in my explorer… it absolutely boggles my mind! Are they dead? Are they sick? Has their life suddenly gotten so interesting as to have no time whatsoever to drop a one liner on their main page to say as much? Mostly, I read someone’s blog BECAUSE their life is interesting- or because they have a fun way of relating the really boring stuff… and I get exceptionally attached to my regular reads too. I visit most of my favourite reads once a week at least, and as per my slightly controlling nature they each have a specific day allocated in my favourites list, and they’re divided between South African and other blogs.
So- as per the questions in my poll… how do you react?
I react differently depending on how often I read and commented on a page that’s suddenly turned into cyber fro-yo. If I visited someone daily I’ll continue to pop over for quite some time, leaving comments along the lines of asking how and where the blog author is. If it was a page I visited weekly I’ll continue to do so for a few weeks, leaving the occasional comment, also asking the “where the hell are you” type of questions. If it was one I visited less frequently (and there aren’t many) I’ll visit only once or twice more before removing the page from my listings.
It takes me a while to find another page to replace the one I removed though… this seriously messes with my routine, bunnies!
Then again, I may have come to the conclusion that it’s my fault (my paranoid neurotic tendencies showing through here)… mwaaaaaahahahahahahaha!