You Used To Be Able To Find Me By Googling “Parenting Hell”

No, really. It was a while ago… and occasionally, it still applies- but not very often.
I got my laptop back, and then I was a bit scarce again… but I was working on this post as well as working for a living!
Anyhoodle, back to the post.
Every parent has those moments right? Yup- but mine are more, um… lets say- entertaining. Why? Because I am mom to an ADHDer!
Doula Mel wrote a wonderful post about parenting an ADHDer, and it got me thinking.
And Damien asked me once “What’s it like to live with an ADHDer?”
Well, I’ve never lived any other way, so I don’t know any different. One thing I can tell you (and Damien) is that it’s never, ever, ever boring!
Here’s a little background for anyone who has not delved too deeply into my archives. Damien was diagnosed with ADHD at age 6, so we’ve been dealing with it for 10 years or so. He is currently on Concerta, and we go to see his doctor and a therapist once a month. He’s also run the gamut of tests, therapies and analyses since he was first diagnosed, poor kid.
Honestly, it took me years to come to terms with my perfect offspring having a “disorder” and needing medical treatment, but once I did- I started seeing the immense positive side of AD/HD, rather than the issues. It really should not be labeled a disorder, but that’s not going to change any time soon.
So what’s positive about ADHD? Let me count the ways…
For one thing, my gorgeous boy has a way with the ladies… okay, maybe that’s not so good… I think it depends on how paranoid a parent you are, teehee.
Damien gets on famously with other people- whether they’re older or younger than he is. I cannot tell you how many times people have commented on how good he is with younger kidlets, and he’s always invited back after he’s been somewhere to visit.
He has an incredible way with animals- he seems to radiate confidence and compassion when he’s near them. He rides a horse like he does it everyday!
Damien is affectionate- even now at 16, he loves a hug or a cuddle and he’ll still kiss me hello and goodbye.
He’s smart- his IQ is above average, and he’s intellectually clever if not always emotionally so.
He’s compassionate- I cannot tell you how many times he’ll see something- on TV, in the shops, in a magazine- and mention someone we know. He loves spending his pocket money on others (when he isn’t buying smokes of course, heh heh).
He knows what he likes and he sticks up for himself, and he’s unashamed of enjoying what he likes doing too.
He knows what he’s good at and he’s passionate about it (almost to a fault), like his drawing.
Unlike most people, he knows what he wants to do with his life, and has known since he was old enough to talk.
Maybe AD/HD makes my boy impulsive and immature in many people’s eyes- but it also makes him happy to be himself and more than happy to be an individual in a world that doesn’t really tolerate individuals.
My darling Damien has taught me to slow down and think things through before making a decision.
My darling Damien has taught me to think twice before judging anyone around me no matter what they do or say.
My darling Damien has taught me the incalculable value of love between a parent and a child.
My darling Damien has had the patience and the never failing love for me, to allow me to grow as a mom.So what’s my final word…? If anyone tells you their kidlet is an ADHDer, don’t pity them. If they’re just starting out, they may not yet know how exciting their journey will be- but I assure you- you can envy those parents their being blessed with such an incredible child.

2 thoughts on “You Used To Be Able To Find Me By Googling “Parenting Hell”

  1. This is a beautiful post. Sweating around my eyes!
    He reminds me of darling Daniel of course. Slightly off the topic…I was actually thinking about the up side of being a single parent this morning and how I woudn’t trade our 1st 6 years for anything.
    That intense mom-boy relationship and friendship is amazing. We are lucky to have these boys of ours. Blessed!
    Mel xxx

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