Can You Say “EXCITEMENT”!!?!?

Bunnies- I am so stoked!!!
My nagging has paid off, and I am going to be speaking at the ADHASA Parents Seminar on June 13th!!!
I’ve been nagging them because as you know I made it my mission to create awareness around ADD and ADHD, and even after attending three of their fantastic annual 2 day seminars at WITS, there is still a lot that doesn’t get said- especially from a parent’s point of view.
I’ve been working on a presentation already, but now I want to ask you all- if you were attending a parents seminar on ADD/ADHD, what would you like to hear?

22 thoughts on “Can You Say “EXCITEMENT”!!?!?

  1. Yvette Kelly: well, I’m not a doctor, but in all the reading and research I’ve done- which included reading up on the vaccines when I heard about the issue– AD/HD is included in the inherited disorders list. Its is in a similar spectrum as OCD, autism and Tourettes, and having someone in your family already suffering from these disorders will increase your chances of having it or carrying it.
    I honestly feel that not giving the vaccines does more harm than good, especially in this day and age of clever viruses that can change before a vaccine even works properly against it.

  2. Is there any truth in the MMR vaccination bringing this on in children?I havent taken my son for this because I have no idea anymore if it is true and I don’t want to take the chance

  3. From a Grandparents view – how do you teach our generation about ADHD. Make us understand. How do moms & dads get their moms & dads to grasp what it is? Maybe you get some answers at the seminar? Maybe there should be an open day for grandparents and other cynical/doubting family ……
    you are truly amazing and I love you!

  4. I’m just getting caught up here. I’m so glad to hear that you are speaking at this. Very cool. I think you are going to do fantastic and be an incredible asset. This cause needs passionate people like you!

  5. sleepyjane, Thomas, Laura, JaneW, Allan, Darla: Thank you so much! Your support means a lot to me.

    Tay: I was serious about giving them my email… 😀

    Anonymous: Fantastic. Thank you.

    The Jackson Files: That is definitely a point worth discussing, and one of contention because kidlets are being diagnosed younger and younger these days.

    Spear: Very true. And thank you.

    momcat: asking an ADHDer to “try harder” to behave, is like asking a kid without hands to try harder to wipe his own bum. It infuriates me because an ADHDer is incapable of “trying harder” with something like an attitude change. And as for OBE, don’t even get me started!!! Teaching is completely aimed at left brain thinkers and there’s no training for our teachers on how to deal with ADHDers and kids with LD, nor are they taught that they can modify their teaching to accommodate kids who think differently.

    Kerryn: thank you. And rest assured there’ll be plenty of reassurance in my talk- especially because I keep going in circles i.t.o. “What did I do?” and “Why me?” and “What am I not doing?” and “What more can I do?”

    Tamara: you’re so right about the schools… and I’ve had plenty of parent-teacher meetings that can attest to that fact. I just keep talking and hope I can get through to at least some of them. And if a child has been formally diagnosed with ADD/ADHD and is being treated, they are entitled to small concessions at school like extra time in exams and tests- which the schools won’t tell you.
    One way to help an ADHDer with homework is to have somewhere they can sit at a desk with no distractions like books or even a window. And doing things in short bursts- like 15 minutes at a time instead of trying to do everything in one fell swoop. Repetition is the bane of an ADHDers life- so if he has to write out his spelling words 10 times, do them once and do something else, then come back and do them the second time, then do something else and do the third set, and so on. The same with reading or math homework. Its called “delayed repetition”.

    Malicious Intent: thank you, and believe me- I’m going to be honest whilst at the same time trying not to scare the bejeebers outta them!

    Eternally Curious: thank you Pat. Truly.

    Adi: thank you for the comment, and rest assured, the positive side of AD/HD is going to be a major focus of my talk.

  6. Hi 🙂 I am an ADD adult, not a parent, but I hope you will allow me to also leave my note. I always hope at these conferences that the positive of ADD will also be stressed. Yes, I know, we are hell to raise and the teachers’ complain notes and phone calls are often but a lot of the reasons we get into trouble are also the reasons we can, as adults, be grateful for ADD. We think out of the box. We experience life intensely. Our senses are so tuned into everything. Yes, it is difficult to concentrate when one observes so much around oneself, but in our minds, other people are missing out. Other people have dulled senses and singularly focussed minds. Yes, it makes you more easy to live with and sit down in a classroom and stay quiet and obedient, but we have more, and that makes us jump up or ask too many questions or sit and doodle for hours. Because we have more, we end up being seen as having less. Please, in your talk, remember to stress the good stuff also. If I could turn back time, I would ask those teachers that were always complaining: why did you not complain about my good grades? Why did you not complain when I became your showcase music pupil? Why did it irritate you so much when I incessantly kept asking questions in Physics class ’cause I was mesmerised (=highly focussed!) with it? It hurts, growing up ADD, ’cause you eventually really believe you are a bad person. And we’re not. We’re actually great. We add a lot of colour to life. Please. Remember those things also. Even if they are annoying you at this point. And know that I am not being asked to present at this event. Like most other handicaps or disabilities, the people that actually suffer from them are talked about without them being invited to tell their perspective. Yes, it is one step closer to have a mom there, but where are the ADD speakers? And with that, I wish you all the best. I hope it goes really, really well.

  7. Just want to offer my CONGRATS Angel! And to Damien as well. I’ve nothing to offer as to what to speak on or research. Only this observation: as you know, one of my all time favorite people EVER is Ty Pennigton. And not just ‘cuz he’s easy on the eyes. Ty was an ADDER child and as you so correctly point out, he still is since there is no “cure”. Every time I watch his show I nearly always do so with my jaw on the ground, thinking “What an AWESOME person … but what a HECK of a woman Ty’s mother must be! It takes someone REAL special to be able to see the One-Of-A-Kind-Gem that is and would become Ty, when he was a mere ‘hyper active’ and wholly unpredictable child!! I can’t imagine what it was like!”

    I see the same kind of “awesomness” potential in Damien.

    Kinda the same way I’ve always felt about you Angel. But then, you know that!

  8. Being a speaker on autism and my organization as a parent myself, I cannot say enough how proud as punch I am of you! You go girl. Just let it come out the way it is…be you, be real, and tell them what it really is like. NO fluffy bunny shit. You have earned your battle scars, show them and enlighten. Good luck!

  9. Fabulous! As a sibling of an ADDer, I’d like to know what practical techniques parents and siblings can use to help ADDers (for example, how you you get your kid to sit down and do homework without it ending in a war). Also, how do you get through to schools about the condition (most schools aren’t very good at supporting ADDers at all)?

  10. WOOT! Well done Angel!

    Cant think of anything right now except I would want to know the TRUTH! The good and the bad!

  11. That’s great! Congrats!

    I’m not a parent and I’ve never lived with it so I’m not quite sure what I’d expect to hear but you’re so knowledgable about the subject I’m sure whatever presentation you decided to give it will be a success:)

  12. If I were a parent to an ADHDer, I think that reassurance would be what I wanted to hear. That there is nothing wrong with you or your child. That this is a disease, and it should be thought of like that. That as a parent of an ADHDer you should never give up trying to educate those who are around your child (family, teachers, etc.)
    I think that too many parents of ADHD children blame themselves for the childs ‘bad’ behaviour (I say ‘bad’, but I thats not what I mean, you know what I mean . . .)

    Good Luck Angel. My daughter is not ADHD, but I have the utmost respect for what you do for Damien and parents of ADHD.

  13. The biggest problem my boys experienced with ADD is having the understanding of schools and teachers. The headmaster at my son’s primary school doesn’t believe in the use of Ritalin and wants the kids to try harder and get a better attitude. I have given up talking to him. I think the whole OBE teaching system and the attitude of the Department towards kids with these problems is sadly lacking in knowledge and understanding. The problem is just passed back to the parents.

  14. Good for you! Having ADD, I do not necessarily know what parents would want to hear. I can tell you what I want them to hear though. Knowledge is understanding. Medication & therapy is only 50% of the solution, knowledge is the rest. If you do not continually keep yourself updated no one else will.

  15. Well done you.

    I would be interested in knowing how, as a parent, you would begin to recognise the difference between exuberance and ADD or ADHD in a young child. Also is a short attention span the same as ADD or ADHD?

    In fact, next time I see you, I may very well as you about this!

  16. If I were a parent who’d just found out about it and attended the talk, I’d like to know what are the most effective ways of dealing with it, ie to medicate or to pursue other avenues, and what’s the newest treatments out there.

    What can make it worse (if that’s possible, like are there triggers)

    Support groups available in the area.

    That’s all i can think of for now.

  17. Awesome news Angel! Hottie and I recently became god parents to a 7 year old with ADHD. His parents are struggling with him at the moment and with a new baby in the house it’s making it that much harder.

    He was on Ritalin and a week ago doctors prescribed something else. Discipline is an issue, swearing is getting out of hand and a few times he has nearly injured the baby.

    I suppose what I am getting to is that these parents are becoming desperate after having tried everything. Advice?

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