Sometimes I Feel Like I Don’t Fit In…

Its an odd feeling.

Its not that I feel unwelcome, I just don’t feel like I have anything to contribute to the conversation…

Most of my friends have young children- toddlers and school age kidlets- and whilst I do sometimes have something to contribute to a conversation it feels like I am butting in. And when I think about what I want to say, I sound- to myself- like one of those old ladies who has to have her two cents and talks too loud, you know the ones where everyone nods and smiles until she’s done and then carries on regardless.

I am also a mom, but my knucklehead is twenty one years old already so whilst I do still have parenting issues with him living at home, I am no longer dealing with school runs, homework, PTA meetings, kids parties, potty training, puking, upset tummies and the like.

I do remember things from when he was growing up that may be relevant in a conversation with other moms, but it feels really strange to be sharing something from so many years ago.

Aaw… Gin Loves Me!

As Gin says in her blog post, we’ve been reading each other’s blogs for a long time and I too cannot recall how we found each other.

She and I, and her twin, could well have been triplets we share so very many similarities! Gin and Bex both are on a very short list of bloggers I very, VERY dearly want to meet one day.

Gin- who used to blog as Darla- created a very special award just for me!

How lucky am I!

Thank you darling Gin!

A Whole Weekend Of Awesomeness!

Oh my goodness!!

What a weekend!!

Last week I got a text message from Sass inviting me to her “Champagne Club” lunch on Saturday! I was so excited I could barely contain myself waiting for Saturday to dawn! I have a few girl-crushes that I am sure I have mentioned before, and Sass is one of them! She’s beautiful, talented, artistic, loving and intelligent! She’s glamorous, yet down to earth, and when I grow up I want to be just like her! If I wasn’t a mostly normal person I would be an out and out stalker!

My sweet Glugster dropped me off at Sass’s house after I spent two hours trying to decide what to wear (eventually settling on my Sass Designs Tuck Dress) and then he stayed home with the puppies and left me to lunch with a VERY cool group of women! I got to practice my afrikaans, we ate a glorious lunch, I took cupcakes for dessert, and we drank a LOT of champagne!! I can’t remember when last I was so pickled! By the time my hubby fetched me that evening (yes, our lunch ended well into supper time, and thank goodness I took Sass’s advice and organised to be dropped off and fetched) I was giggling like a loon for absolutely no reason, and I had a brief BBM conversation with my family in which my ridiculous spelling and such had them all in stitches! Thank goodness I put the phone down and went to sleep before I started on Twitter or Facebook!

Thank you Sass!

And thanx for the photo Sass!

And then on Sunday, my Glugster and I got to celebrate a very dear friend’s birthday with him. We got together with Jon and a whole lot of his friends at an awesome place called Gilroy’s! Spending the afternoon with Jon and Sheena was fabulous as always, and the astmosphere at Gilroy’s made us want to stay there all day! Whoever decorated Gilroy’s had an absolute blast, putting up the strangest signs for no apparent reason! The owner and host keeps his patrons entertained and it feels more like you’re partying at a friend’s house than eating at an open air restaurant. It was glorious and it suited the occasion down to the ground!

Thank you Jon for inviting us to share your birthday celebration!

one of the signs with no apparent purpose – apart from telling you to beware of the sign!

A Long Overdue Week Away…

Last week Friday, my husband and I set off for Midlands Saddle and Trout in KZN to spend the week there with my mommy and daddy darling at their timeshare!

We’d been planning it for months and even after we learned our sweet Nathan’s memorial service was on the Thursday before we were due to leave, we decided not to change our plans and make the most of the chance to get away from everything. We also couldn’t really change the dates as my daddy darling’s dialysis bags were delivered to the resort as was arranged months before.

The drive down was pretty uneventful. We left Gauteng after 10am so we missed the worst of the traffic, and the roads were clear because we were going down out of season. My Glugster and my dad shared hethe driving with my mom and I chatting up a storm in the back seat- to each other and on our BBM Groups! We stopped in Harrismith for lunch before finishing our journey at the exceptionally well appointed resort cottage!

There was one family event planned for the Saturday (a bit of a reunion of sorts for my mom’s family), and a couple of visits to my granny darling in Howick were arranged. The rest of the week was ours to do with as we pleased. And we did exactly as we pleased! We strolled around the resort. We looked for birds. We slept late. We talked to the resort’s horses (who you are not allowed to feed). We played Scrabble. We ate too much. We drank too much wine. We were hoping to do some fly-fishing but the licenses were a tad pricey, and the horsey outrides also weren’t cheap so we didn’t ride at all. There was next to no 3G signal so we couldn’t spend time on line, and the phone signal was horrible too so even calls were limited!

On the Sunday morning- after my Glugster reminded me that it wasn’t actually Tuesday- I took a chance and phoned Cath-tastic! I was ecstatic when she said she and her sweetheart had no plans and we set off for their house in Doibs a little while later. I was even more excited when she let me know that B and her SexyG would be there too! We had all of two hours to put away a couple of Pina Coladas and some bubbly, but it was SO totally worth it to be able to give Cath and B some real-life hugs!

On the Monday morning we went to visit my granny darling in Howick, taking the scenic route along the Midlands Meander instead of the highway.

On Wednesday we spent most of the day touring a part of the Midlands Meander, bird watching, taking our time, sampling cheese, eating chocolate, waffles and biltong, admiring horses and shoes, and playing with goats!

On Thursday my folks went to see my granny darling again and my Glugster spent a rather arduous day helping out with a crisis at work, which with a better signal would have taken perhaps an hour! But we stayed at the house and I made supper for the four of us and we just chilled.

Friday morning we lit out for home again, stopping again in Harrismith for coffee and making excellent time!

It was such a wonderful week.

Friends Are The Family You Choose

Whilst we have not been inundated with guests and flowers at our home like my brother and parents have- thank goodness- we are blessed with the most incredible friends…

Last Sunday Sheena and her Jon popped round for coffee and a bit of a visit.

On Friday (which was a public holiday) I had several cupcake order collections in the morning and then in the afternoon I went to Beagle Momma’s to celebrate her 30th birthday with cupcakes and champagne! It was a wonderful afternoon. I saw several people I haven’t seen in a while and it was glorious to just make casual conversation and laugh at the children’s antics.

On Saturday morning my friend Sweet Stef popped round! A fabulous few hours were spent catching up on each other’s news before she took herself home again.

And on Saturday evening, ExMi and The Jackson Files arrived with their boys, bringing with them meat, wine, bread rolls and tequila! We spent an exceptionally pleasant evening laughing and talking and eating outside with Jackson and the Kid watching DVDs in the lounge.

I am truly blessed to be surrounded by such wonderful people. They know I don’t want to only talk about our family losing Nathan and what happened and such, and they manage to keep my mind off my sadness without making it seem as though they have better things to do! They know its enough to give me a hug and say they’re thinking of us without making a huge t0-d0 about it.

They have succeeded in giving us back a little bit of normality for a while and for that I am eternally grateful.

Thank you.